if you’ve asked God “why”, you’re not alone…
We start asking this question as soon as we learn it. If I had a nickel for every time my own children asked me “why”, I would be a really rich woman. “Why are you big, and I’m little?” Or, “why does she get to go, but I don’t?” So many “whys” in life, and they don’t stop as we grow up. In fact, the questions still come and become more and more complicated as we age. It always remains- this desire to understand things, and our need for answers. And while we usually go to parents, other family members, or friends for answers, we also find ourselves asking God “why”. After all, He knows everything, and allows things to happen, so we naturally turn our “whys” on Him. And I’m really glad He’s okay with that.
My “why” questions really transformed as I grew up. From trivial questions about my little world and the basics of life, they took a new turn. Why am I single, and everyone else seems to have someone? Or why do they get to have children, and I keep having miscarriages? And then there were the “whys” of my marriage problems. Why do other people get to have “normal” marriages, and mine is a mess? Why did my marriage journey include an affair? Why does my faith seem to constantly be tested? These are questions we take to God with desperation, needing some sort of answer, or at the very least, reassurance that even in the middle of life’s messiness, He still loves us.
Some of our questions will be answered, and some won’t. Even those that we don’t feel are answered, actually are, they just weren’t answered the way we hoped, or as clearly as we wanted them to be. But we do know that God always hears us, and He always cares. We often feel heartbroken when He doesn’t give us the answer we want, and feel ignored or uncared for. But when we understand the character of God, we know we are wrong to ever assume this about Him. While He understands our questions, He answers in ways that we often don’t understand. This is because our vision is so localized to where we are right now in this part of our journey, that we can’t see the bigger picture- but God can. When my “whys” don’t get answered, God is asking me to simply trust Him. My withheld answers are intended to bolster my faith- not a faith in the answer, but faith in God.
What questions are you struggling with today? What has God allowed to happen in your life that seem unjust or unfair? Why does God call some of us to go through some really difficult stuff? We will always wrestle with “whys” because we are earthly minded. I have asked God many times in my own journey- “why me, Lord?” And at times when I’m really desperate for an answer, my mind can switch the meaning of those words. While I may not know why things are they way they are right now, I do know that I am undeserving of being chosen. I am undeserving of God’s love and care. I am not worthy of His great grace and gift of salvation, yet He has chosen to liberally give it to me anyway. And so when I’m faced with my biggest “why” questions in life, may I remember the good of what I have been given, and what I have been promised. God doesn’t mind my questions, but He does ask that I trust Him and obediently follow Him, even when I can’t see or understand where He is leading me. If we had all the answers, we wouldn’t need faith. And without faith, it is impossible to please God. As I move forward, without knowledge of the outcome, may I know that God will never lead me where He won’t use me. And somedays, that is the only answer I need.
For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the LORD. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts. Isaiah 55:8-9 (ESV)
For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now i know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known. 1 Corinthians 13:12 (ESV)
If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him. James 1:5 (ESV)
Dear heavenly Father, we thank You for always hearing our questions and we pray that You will give us patience as we wait for answers. We are thankful for the wonderful gifts You have given us, and we pray for faith when answers seem far away. In Your name we pray, Amen!
