If you’re a Christian, you’ve probably figured out by now that we aren’t exempt from trials and suffering. We didn’t get an easy pass as soon as we accepted Him as our Savior. I’ve heard people say after a tragedy or trial, “and they are even a Christian, and yet it still happened to them” -almost puzzled by it. There are many bonuses to being redeemed, but one of them isn’t a cake walk through life.
I think we are not as shocked by infidelity when it hits the average secular home, yet when it hits the home of a Christian, we often don’t get it. It can throw us for a loop when we don’t realize that each one of us is clothed in humanity, making none of us immune to sin and the consequences of living in a fallen world. I’m approaching my 50’s and I’ve had my share of tests and trials, and I’m guessing you have as well.
I was enjoying a scripture that gives us a little comfort in knowing we aren’t alone in this “cross bearing” journey we are traveling: “And he said to ALL, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me (Luke 9:23 ESV). If we are followers of Jesus, we will still have our crosses to bear. While we are encouraged to pick it up and keep following Jesus, we are also asked to deny ourselves. This is a tall order for our selfish nature to fill. And so I look at this scripture and apply it to our marital crisis.
If I can make it a visual application, my cross has “betrayed by infidelity” written on it. But if I look closer, it has many other things written on it as well. Some are the results of others sin against me, and plenty are the result of my own pride and disobedience against God. The words on my cross are painful and shameful, and yet it has my name on it to bear. I can choose to let it lay there on the ground and feel sorry for myself, saying it’s too heavy to pick up- that’s the easy way. Or, I can look at the encouraging face of my Savior, calling out to me, “Ruth, while this is painful to carry, and really heavy, you can do this through My strength. Don’t worry about what others are doing or saying, they have their own cross to carry, just pick it up, and follow Me.”
Friends, we are called to walk through some tough circumstances, and yet it is within our power to persevere and follow our God, or allow them to defeat us. If infidelity is a part of your story too, what are you going to do with your cross? Yes, it’s heavy, and yes, it hurts, but when we follow Jesus, we won’t be led down a path of disappointment. While we often think we are entitled to only good things, it’s often our cross bearing that will give us our identity in Jesus. How well are you carrying yours? Does it point others to your Source of strength, or do you refuse to deny yourself and let it lay useless on the ground? I won’t say I never lay mine down, but when we do, we only need to look to Him to give us the strength to hoist it back up, and keep following our Lord!
More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us. Romans 5:3-5 ESV
Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, Hebrews 12:1 ESV
For you have need of endurance, so that when you have done the will of God you may receive what is promised. Hebrews 10:36 ESV
Dear Heavenly Father, how thankful I am that when we are called to carry our crosses, You draw alongside and help and encourage us. Some crosses are heavier than others, but none are too heavy when we allow Your strength to fuel us. Lord, when You call me to follow You through the dark and painful places, may I deny myself, and obediently follow You. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen!